Therapy for Couples and Polycules
You’re tired of feeling exhausted and disconnected from your partner(s) after trying your hardest to improve your relationship, and you know it’s time to bring in a new perspective. My relationship therapy practice focuses on relationships that often feel marginalized by traditional “marriage” therapy, especially non-monogamous relationships and relationships that need neurodiversity-affirming support.
All relationship therapy clients show up with different needs, and I’ll bring evidence-based approaches alongside curiosity, empathy, and directness to our collaborative work. Together we can untangle the emotional and attachment-based underpinnings of what currently feels like endless misunderstandings so that you feel more connected and aligned when having hard discussions. I’ll also show you how to achieve compromise, to discuss “gridlocked” issues, and to develop rituals within your relationship that strengthen your bond with friendship, fun, and even romance and sex (if that’s what you’re into!)
-
If you're considering ethical non-monogamy for the first time or are starting to feel like polyamory fits your lovestyle, you may feel too anxious initiate the necessary conversations to set the groundwork for a healthy, expansive relationship. If your relationship is currently monogamous, you might be feeling worried that you'll hurt your current partner or that you'll be judged by your family and friends for making this shift. Couples and polycules that are more experienced in non-monogamy or polyamory may want an affirming space to work through jealousy, boundary setting, or polyamory-friendly future planning. My work with non-monogamous relationships will teach you to move with emotional and logistical transparency, relational creativity, and top-notch conflict resolution skills. You will gain clarity in how you want pursue new relationship experiences and deepen your connection with yourself and your partner(s). I am an enthusiastically kink affirming and experienced clinician!
-
If you and/or your partner(s) are neurodivergent, you already know that advice focusing on neurotypical individuals within relationships may not fit your specific needs. You or your partner(s) may have been labeled as “avoidant” for needing time to decompress silently with your hobbies, or maybe were told that your particular method of organized chaos at home (it works for you!) is simply not allowed in adult relationships. Whether you or your partner(s) have been “formally” OR self-diagnosed with ADHD, Autism, Sensory Processing Disorder, or other diagnoses within the neurodivergent umbrella, I start from a place of respect and curiosity towards your experience within your brain and life.
-
I offer short-term counseling for relationships that are seeking to de-escalate or conclude with respect. We will consider together how to honor the meaning of the relationship’s past while asking and answering tough questions about the future.
As I am not a lawyer, I cannot offer specific legal advice around ending relationships that are legally-bound, and I do not offer testimony in custody or divorce related legal processes. I can offer referrals to legal services as needed.